Stop Chasing: Leave Space for Others to Come Forth

The worst move you can make in response to someone not showing up in your relationship is to chase him/her. Chasing, nine times out of ten, leads to the other person running further away. It’s a losing game of cat and mouse almost every time. The more you go after the person by begging, pleading, […]

10 Ways Women Give Their Power Away (Part II)

Several weeks ago, I wrote the first part of this post (http://lisamerlobooth.com/10-ways-women-give-power-away-part/); here is part II and the remaining five ways women give their power away. These ten ways are some of the most common ways we give our power away; there are many other smaller ways. As a woman, I encourage you to keep […]

Unhealthy Relationships: Why in the World Are You Staying?

I cannot tell you how many people, women in particular, stay in ridiculously unhealthy relationships. This pattern is due, in part, to the unhealthy socialization messages we give females. The messages to women and young girls are all about being attractive enough to find a man who somehow is going to make their life perfect. […]

Dismissiveness: Remove These 5 Statements from Your Communication

When it comes to upsets and conflict, one of the worst things you can do is respond in a way that is dismissive or minimizing. The last thing in the world people want to hear is you telling them their upset isn’t really a problem. That response is not calming. It won’t reassure them. And […]

Women and the Loss of Self

To all the women who have ever said, “I don’t even recognize who I am anymore.” Life started as an experiment in daring to find yourself, speak for yourself and fight for yourself. You dared to say no to others and yes to yourself, only to find that you would be called selfish as a […]

10 Ways Women Give Their Power Away (Part I)

From the moment we enter this world, women are taught harmful messages about who we are, how we are and how we should be. Unfortunately those messages take a toll over time. These messages can make owning our power a herculean feat if we’re not careful. Below are five ways many of us women give […]

Supporting Loved Ones in the Aftermath of Affairs (Part II)

This is the final part of last week’s post (http://lisamerlobooth.com/supporting-loved-ones-aftermath-affairs-part/) on supporting your loved ones through the fallout of affairs. 1. Multiple affairs increase the pain and the healing time. If this is not the first affair, then the healing will take longer. Now the person is angry with their spouse for cheating in the […]

The 5 Most Common Edges (Part II)

As I wrote last week, our “edge” is that relationally-dysfunctional move we do in times of stress or conflict—when we are reactive rather than mindful. Last week I spoke about defensiveness and acting passive-aggressive (http://lisamerlobooth.com/5-common-edges-part/. Below are the remaining three most common edges: 1. Rage: Raging shows up as any or all of the following: […]

The 5 Most Common Edges and What to Do About Them (Part I)

Our “edge” is that relationally-dysfunctional move we do in times of stress or conflict. It’s the move we do when we’re reactive, rather than mindful. ALL human beings have edges. And most of us have two or three edges that show up time and time again with anyone and everyone. You see, the thing about […]