10 Tenets to Healthy Relationships

Healthy relationships don’t just magically happen. There are several key ingredients that are present in every healthy relationship and some that are necessarily absent. Too many people normalize harmful behaviors and dismiss the importance of positive behaviors. The bottom-line is however you can’t have great relationships if you and others aren’t great in them. If […]

Healthy Self-Esteem: Don’t Allow Others to Define You

The thoughts, opinions and beliefs others have about your sense of worth have absolutely nothing to do with your level of worth. In a world where so many are judging others based on their race, looks, gender, sexual orientation and on and on, many individuals can begin to feel small. Don’t buy in. Don’t ever […]

The Loss of Self and Finding Yourself Again

Finding Yourself Again Women I work with often tell me they’ve lost themselves. Somewhere along the way, they stopped seeing things through their own lenses, stopped taking care of their needs and stopped paying attention to what they wanted. Instead, they took care of the kids, tried to be there for their husbands, worked hard […]

The Cost of the Quick Fix is More Than You Imagine

As I sit with yet another couple drowning from the fallout of another affair, I’m struck by what seems to be an epidemic of people looking for the quick fix to life’s problems. •    People unhappy in their marriages are turning to affairs. •    People feeling sad or down want a drug to make the […]

How to Squash Sex and Intimacy in Your Marriage (Part 2)

If you would like an emotionally intimate, sexually gratifying marriage, be sure you are not behaving like any of the characters below. 1.    The entitled one. Act entitled. Act as if your needs are the only ones that matter. Be a selfish lover and demand sex when you want it and how you want it. […]

How to Squash Sex and Intimacy in Your Marriage (Part 1)

Couples are struggling to keep up the intimacy in their marriages—emotionally and physically. Studies show that 15-20% of marriages are sexless. Some of these marriages are still within the first five years of marriage! Many marriages are also devoid of emotional intimacy. The combination of no sex and a lack of emotional connection can be […]

“Apologizing is Weak” is a Crazy Notion

The belief that “apologizing is weak” is a crazy notion that is harming countless relationships. Having this belief sets a person up to defend, deflect or rationalize their behavior. In essence, s/he will do anything except apologize, dare to be accountable or be courageous enough to own her/his mistakes. The irony in this belief is […]

Ten Truths Women Need to Hear

One of the most frustrating things in my line of work is watching women get in—and stay in—unhealthy relationships. No matter how many red flags they see, hurtful interactions they have or lies they’re told, far too many women blame themselves, question themselves and don’t trust themselves. Below are 10 truths that women need to […]

A New Year’s Challenge: Be Kind to ALL Humanity

Did you know that if: •    A person is cut, s/he will bleed real blood that is red—regardless of his or her religious affiliation, the color of his/her skin or his/her sexual orientation? •    A person loses a child, s/he will be heartbroken—regardless of whether that child is black, white, brown, red or in between? […]