The Cost of the Quick Fix is More Than You Imagine

As I sit with yet another couple drowning from the fallout of another affair, I’m struck by what seems to be an epidemic of people looking for the quick fix to life’s problems. •    People unhappy in their marriages are turning to affairs. •    People feeling sad or down want a drug to make the […]

How to Squash Sex and Intimacy in Your Marriage (Part 2)

If you would like an emotionally intimate, sexually gratifying marriage, be sure you are not behaving like any of the characters below. 1.    The entitled one. Act entitled. Act as if your needs are the only ones that matter. Be a selfish lover and demand sex when you want it and how you want it. […]

How to Squash Sex and Intimacy in Your Marriage (Part 1)

Couples are struggling to keep up the intimacy in their marriages—emotionally and physically. Studies show that 15-20% of marriages are sexless. Some of these marriages are still within the first five years of marriage! Many marriages are also devoid of emotional intimacy. The combination of no sex and a lack of emotional connection can be […]

“Apologizing is Weak” is a Crazy Notion

The belief that “apologizing is weak” is a crazy notion that is harming countless relationships. Having this belief sets a person up to defend, deflect or rationalize their behavior. In essence, s/he will do anything except apologize, dare to be accountable or be courageous enough to own her/his mistakes. The irony in this belief is […]

Ten Truths Women Need to Hear

One of the most frustrating things in my line of work is watching women get in—and stay in—unhealthy relationships. No matter how many red flags they see, hurtful interactions they have or lies they’re told, far too many women blame themselves, question themselves and don’t trust themselves. Below are 10 truths that women need to […]

A New Year’s Challenge: Be Kind to ALL Humanity

Did you know that if: •    A person is cut, s/he will bleed real blood that is red—regardless of his or her religious affiliation, the color of his/her skin or his/her sexual orientation? •    A person loses a child, s/he will be heartbroken—regardless of whether that child is black, white, brown, red or in between? […]

Tips for Enjoying Your Holidays

Note: I’m reprinting this post from years past as a reminder for all of us to take the time to enjoy the holiday season rather than get run over by it. Enjoy! 1.    Take time out.  During the stress of the holiday rush, many people forget to take time to just relax.  Slow down for […]

Is Reactivity Killing Your Relationships?

Reactivity can show up as being easily triggered into feeling overwhelmed, angry, out of control or shut down. If someone says something you don’t like, you may get wounded, defensive or angry very quickly. People may find it difficult to talk with you about their upsets or their disagreements because they fear you will become […]

Saving Your Marriage is Easier Before Your Wife Asks for a Divorce

My most popular blog post by far is, “The Dos and Don’ts of Saving Your Marriage” (http://lisamerlobooth.com/dos-donts-saving-marriage-winning-spouse-back/). Having received over 200 comments on this post alone, it’s clear that people are at a loss to know how to win their spouse back. More often than not, those comments are from men who tell me that […]