WHAT IS YOUR “EDGE”?

In my work with couples again and again, I hear each person discuss in great detail the flaws and problems of their partner. Seldom do I hear someone say, “You know this is what I have to work on in this relationship. This is where I take us off course.” Instead, I hear something like […]

THE POWER OF WORDS (Cornerstone #2)

Cornerstone 2. Use your words to build others up, not tear them down. I believe that people underestimate the power of words everyday. Whether it is a kind word shared with love or mean words thrown in anger, words have impact. Kind words can soothe a person’s heart, raise a person’s spirit or bring a […]

Cornerstone 2: Use Your Words to Build Others Up, Not Tear Them Down

Cornerstone 2. Use your words to build others up, not tear them down. I believe that people underestimate the power of words everyday. Whether it is a kind word shared with love or mean words thrown in anger, words have impact. Kind words can soothe a person’s heart, raise a person’s spirit or bring a […]

HOLIDAY TIPS

After returning home from a full day of shopping, I am reminded of how stressful the holiday season can be for families. If we’re not careful, we can easily forget that the holidays are a “joyous” occasion filled with love, laughter and “good tidings.” With this in mind, here are some tips for this holiday: […]

RELATIONSHIPS ARE HARD WORK

The idea that relationships should be easy is a crazy idea that I am convinced was made up by some Hollywood producer to help the movies sell. The reality is that relationships are hard work and there’s no way to get around it. They can be the biggest joy in your life one day and […]

WE TEACH OTHERS HOW TO TREAT US

I believe that we teach people everyday how to treat us; we do this with our words, our actions and even our silence. If we choose to stay in a conversation while someone is belittling us, swearing or calling us names, we teach them that this behavior is okay. If we repeatedly ask our partner […]

Authenticity and Intimacy

I am struck by how often women silence their voices under the guise of not wanting to “make waves,” “cause conflict” or be a “bitch.” So instead, they often tell people what they think the listeners want to hear to their face, and then either speak their true thoughts behind the person’s back or say […]