Assumptions: It’s Not What You Think

Being mindful of why we do what we do in the world can be hard work; interpreting why others do what they do, on top of monitoring ourselves, is a recipe for disaster. The problem with interpreting others’ actions is that the things we make up about another person’s behavior is almost always negatively skewed: […]

10 Behaviors that Destroy Healthy Relationships

Creating healthy relationships requires mindfulness, not a PhD. A past mentor of mine use to say to the couples he was working with, “If you go out in the rain without an umbrella, you’re going to get wet. Don’t blame me for getting wet.” Relationships are the same thing—if you treat those around you poorly, […]

The Underlying Message of Silence—Intended or Unintended

“Inherent in Your Silence is Acceptance” ~LMB The underlying message of silence, like it or not, is acceptance. This is particularly true for hurtful offenses. In fact, the bigger the offense—responded to by silence—the louder a message of acceptance is being conveyed. This is an often unspoken truth in courtrooms, offices and even homes. •   […]