Dismissiveness: Remove These 5 Statements from Your Communication

When it comes to upsets and conflict, one of the worst things you can do is respond in a way that is dismissive or minimizing. The last thing in the world people want to hear is you telling them their upset isn’t really a problem. That response is not calming. It won’t reassure them. And […]

The 5 Most Common Edges (Part II)

As I wrote last week, our “edge” is that relationally-dysfunctional move we do in times of stress or conflict—when we are reactive rather than mindful. Last week I spoke about defensiveness and acting passive-aggressive (http://lisamerlobooth.com/5-common-edges-part/. Below are the remaining three most common edges: 1. Rage: Raging shows up as any or all of the following: […]

A Message to Women: Don’t Collude

Many of us are acutely aware of the harmful messages our world sends to men and women. These messages put both genders in a box that’s difficult to get out of. For men, the messages center around “manning up.” For women, they center around “sexing up.” This post is for the women. The world objectifies […]