When Change Seems Impossible, Try This

Most people who feel stuck try to solve their problems in the same way—they largely focus their time and attention on trying to change the other person. More times than not, they complain, yell, scream, plead, shut down, defend, rationalize and essentially do whatever they can to get the other person to “see the light.” […]

Change Requires Stepping in With Courage

I often hear clients talk about how unhappy they are and how powerless they feel to change things. If the issue is a bad marriage, they struggle with trying to get their spouse to show up in a different way. If the issue is with work, they feel powerless to change their job if they’re […]

Healthy Relationships Require that We Clean Up Our Side: Work Your Edges

In my last post I talked about “edges” — those dysfunctional, provocative moves we make when we are not at our best. As I stated in that post, these edges take their toll in our relationships and in our lives. Left unchecked, our edges can wreak some serious havoc. So this week, let’s talk about […]