1. Make everything about you. No matter what is going on, constantly turn it around and talk about how it is affecting you. If your partner’s upset—talk about your upset. If your partner wants support for their dreams, whine about how they should be supporting your dreams. Who do they think they are, trying to get their needs met—what about yours, damn it!
2. Be defensive. This will drive your partner CRAZY! Every time they say anything to you about what you’re doing that they don’t like or what they want to be different, DEFEND YOURSELF! Explain all the ways you’ve been great. Tell them why you do what you do and that they should appreciate that, not be upset by it. Really EXPLAIN until they finally stop giving you feedback—ever.
3. Be mean. Shame your partner in public, make fun of them, laugh at them, tell them they’re dumb/fat/stupid/crazy. Swear at them when they make you angry. Embarrass them when you go out so you can get a laugh from your friends. Really shame them in public so you can show the world you have the upper hand. Nothing better than being mean to make someone really miserable in their relationship.
4. Be super controlling and jealous. Hold on tight to YOUR money and micromanage their spending—after all you’re the one who’s in charge! Don’t let them go out with friends, don’t trust them for a second on their own and constantly text, call or check up on them to make sure they’re where they’re supposed to be. Oh, and be sure to isolate them from their family—you don’t want your partner to prefer being with them rather than you. Intimidate them and berate them when they don’t respond to your calls quickly enough or when they dare to want to go out with friends.
5. Cheat, flirt, ogle. Have affairs, go on dating/cheating sites, collect porn, sext all you can and definitely shamelessly flirt right in front of your partner. Better yet, blame your cheating on your partner and show no remorse. When they question you about your behavior, DENY, DENY, DENY! Tell them they’re crazy or paranoid and then tell them that if they continue to be so insecure, you may as well cheat! And then go cheat again and again, blaming it on your workaholic, crazy or aloof partner.
6. Always be RIGHT. Argue your case to the hilt and show them how right you are about everything. Don’t for a moment try to see their point of view. Constantly critique what they’re saying and re-educate them on their thinking. There is NO room for a differing opinion—especially when yours is always right! Your constantly having to be right will shut them down and stop them from even trying to share their thoughts with you—a great way to create a miserable relationship.
The above tips, along with last week’s tips, are a great list of things to do if you want to keep people at bay. If intimacy is not your thing then incorporate these into your marriage, partnership or dating relationships and you will block intimacy in no time at all.
Challenge: Try any of the above for a week or two if you want serious problems in your relationships. If you really want to lose your relationship, then incorporate three or four of these moves into your weekly routines—you’ll be alone in no time or at least leave your partner wishing they were alone.