Is Reactivity Killing Your Relationships?

Reactivity can show up as being easily triggered into feeling overwhelmed, angry, out of control or shut down. If someone says something you don’t like, you may get wounded, defensive or angry very quickly. People may find it difficult to talk with you about their upsets or their disagreements because they fear you will become […]

The Emotional Walls with which We Surround Ourselves

Surrounding yourself with a wall will keep people away, leave you alone and make you difficult to be in relationship with. Leave the walling off to houses, not people. Examples of emotional walls that people keep around themselves include: •    A wall of words: A wall of words is going on and on in your […]

Healthy Relationships Require that We Clean Up Our Side: Work Your Edges

In my last post I talked about “edges” — those dysfunctional, provocative moves we make when we are not at our best. As I stated in that post, these edges take their toll in our relationships and in our lives. Left unchecked, our edges can wreak some serious havoc. So this week, let’s talk about […]