Lying Harms Lives and Relationships: Be Impeccable with Your Word

Don Miguel Ruiz, author of “The Four Agreements,” has, as one of his agreements, “Be impeccable with your word.” In a world where white lies and tricky truths run wild, this agreement can be far more difficult to adhere to than one might think. The ease with which many of us speak from a dishonest […]

Healthy Relationships Require that We Clean Up Our Side: Work Your Edges

In my last post I talked about “edges” — those dysfunctional, provocative moves we make when we are not at our best. As I stated in that post, these edges take their toll in our relationships and in our lives. Left unchecked, our edges can wreak some serious havoc. So this week, let’s talk about […]


Courage is doing the hard thing that you know in your heart you need to do. It’s being the lone voice in a fire pit of aggressive voices — encouraging them to tone it down. It’s standing up for those unable to stand up for themselves; speaking your voice calmly, even when others radically disagree; […]