“Defensiveness is a key predictor of divorce; if you want to be happily married, you had better lose the defensiveness.” ~Lisa Merlo-Booth Over the years, I’ve realized how utterly uncommon accountability is, and courageous accountability is even less common. Have you noticed this as well? Do you struggle with being accountable? If so, let me […]
Defensiveness: A Leading Relationship Killer
Defensiveness is a true relationship wrecker—on the job, in the home and out in the world. It is one of those dysfunctional responses that can be extremely difficult to be around and can wreak havoc in a person’s life. So how do you know if you’re defensive? If you do any of the behaviors […]
Your Defensiveness Is Not Helping You or Your Relationship
I remember my supervisor talking many years ago about how frustrating it was for her when a person on her team was defensive about feedback. She was venting about how difficult it is to mentor people when every time you point out something you’d like them to work on they start explaining, rationalizing or defending […]