“Inherent in Your Silence is Acceptance” ~LMB The underlying message of silence, like it or not, is acceptance. This is particularly true for hurtful offenses. In fact, the bigger the offense—responded to by silence—the louder a message of acceptance is being conveyed. This is an often unspoken truth in courtrooms, offices and even homes. • […]
Changing the World, Your Marriage or Your Job, Requires Action
“Inherent in your silence is acceptance” ~LMB Many people talk about wanting to stop racism, address patriarchy, end misogyny and shut down oppression of all groups. Men and women of all races and sexual orientations have come out of the woodwork to march against these issues—particularly in this past year. Marching, talking against and wanting […]
Five Ways Your Edges are Sabotaging Your Success at Home and at Work
Our “edge” is that relationally dysfunctional move we do (when we are not at our best) in times of stress or conflict. Donald Trump, for example, repeatedly goes on the offensive when someone challenges him on his actions. Therefore, one of Trump’s edges is defensiveness, and, in particular, it’s defensively going on the offensive (he […]