Rage from a parent destroys a child’s soul. It infuses children with shame, fear, depression, and often more rage. Children raised in homes where anger is out of control, learn that love hurts. This sets them up for a lifetime of relationship struggles, much insecurity and often a lot of pain. Anger that is out […]
When Requesting Change, Lead with a Gift
Asking your partner to do something different can be a difficult conversation to have. Many times it is so difficult that individuals fret and ruminate for hours, days or even weeks before saying anything. Unfortunately, all of this fretting often leads to one partner blurting out, in the heat of the moment, what they don’t […]
Don’t Let a Great Message Get Lost in the Delivery
One day I was working with a couple and while the husband was talking, his wife interrupted him several times. After about the third time he turned to her and said, “Would you shut up and let me speak!” She immediately became angry. He attempted to continue until I stopped him. “Tom” I said. “You […]