We are bombarded with messages about creating a great life, having what we want, making our dreams come true and on and on. These messages often leave us wanting for more. We want “rockin’ relationships,” amazing kids, meaningful jobs and satisfying lives. When we don’t have these things, we have a tendency to blame external factors.
Until each of us learns to stand behind the light within us, we run the risk of forever wanting more. It’s time to stop wanting and instead start creating.
If we want something, then it is up to us to own it, stand behind it and believe in ourselves in order to make that want a reality. Rockin’ relationships don’t happen if we’re not strong enough to stand behind that desire. They don’t happen if we want so badly to be loved that we accept crumbs and pretend the crumbs are a birthday cake. Great relationships don’t happen if we can’t ask for our needs and wants, choose to accept the unacceptable or become so over the top in our pursuit of respectful treatment that we become disrespectful ourselves. Rockin’ relationships, great jobs and amazing kids happen when we have the courage to do what is necessary to create these things.
We create our destiny. It’s time we stopped wishing, wanting and hoping for more and instead start taking action. If we want a better relationship, we start by changing ourselves rather than complaining about our partner. If we’re tired of that mean-spirited colleague, we have to stop pretending they’re okay. If we want a better job, we may have to risk losing the one we have. Creating change always starts with the self — the only person we have control of. Change starts with a choice and a commitment to engage in countless actions strung together in such a way that they produce results.
Stop wishing and start acting. Change starts and ends with you.
Challenge: What is the one thing you are complaining about most in your life? What would happen if you decided to stop complaining and instead chose to take steps to change things? Choose one step and take it today.