“Responding to someone’s upset by defending, explaining, or minimizing is a bad move every time. Change your moves.” ~LMB Defending your actions seems to have become the new “in” thing to do in relationships these days. The problem, however, is that defensiveness absolutely kills relationships. One of the most common struggles individuals have is defensiveness. If […]
Beware: 5 Relationship Accountability Show-stoppers
No matter how attractive, funny or charismatic your significant other maybe, if s/he has any of the five relationship accountability show-stoppers below, be warned that you are likely in for a very bumpy ride at best. 1. Defensiveness: Everyone gets defensive every now and then, however, some people get defensive anytime someone gives them feedback […]
Men and Repair: “I Screwed Up!!! Now What?”
I receive many e-mails and comments on my blog from men asking me what to do after they’ve really messed things up in their relationship. Most of these “screw ups” have been a series of behaviors over time that eventually burned out their marriages or long-term relationships. Some men had affairs, while others were dismissive, […]