No matter how attractive, funny or charismatic your significant other maybe, if s/he has any of the five relationship accountability show-stoppers below, be warned that you are likely in for a very bumpy ride at best. 1. Defensiveness: Everyone gets defensive every now and then, however, some people get defensive anytime someone gives them feedback […]
Men and Repair: “I Screwed Up!!! Now What?”
I receive many e-mails and comments on my blog from men asking me what to do after they’ve really messed things up in their relationship. Most of these “screw ups” have been a series of behaviors over time that eventually burned out their marriages or long-term relationships. Some men had affairs, while others were dismissive, […]
“Apologizing is Weak” is a Crazy Notion
The belief that “apologizing is weak” is a crazy notion that is harming countless relationships. Having this belief sets a person up to defend, deflect or rationalize their behavior. In essence, s/he will do anything except apologize, dare to be accountable or be courageous enough to own her/his mistakes. The irony in this belief is […]