“Justifying, minimizing, or defending your actions, turns small mistakes into big problems. Repair the other person’s pain rather than protecting your ego.” ~LMB If a friend, family member, lover, or colleague comes to you in a place of upset about something you did, it’s your job to do what you can to help them. It’s not […]
Stop Defending and Start Being Brave
“There are few things more courageous than being accountable. Stop defending and start being brave.” ~LMB Recently I wrote a tip about defensiveness and soon after, I received an email asking if I would write about, “some effective ways to accomplish the healing and change our behavior”. What I love about this request is that […]
Moving from Defensiveness to Accountability
“Responding to someone’s upset by defending, explaining, or minimizing is a bad move every time. Change your moves.” ~LMB Defending your actions seems to have become the new “in” thing to do in relationships these days. The problem, however, is that defensiveness absolutely kills relationships. One of the most common struggles individuals have is defensiveness. If […]