“If you are unable to say no, then your yes is not a yes. Saying no is vital to healthy relationships; find the courage to speak it.” ~LMB Occasionally saying yes to something you do not honestly want to do is okay; after all, relationships are about give and take. Too much giving and agreeing to things […]
Dare to Be Honest About the Full Picture, Not the Softened Version
“Pretending something is better than it is will not make it better. Dare to be honest about the full picture, not the softened version.” ~LMB I’m often surprised by how many couples come into my office saying, “Things are pretty good, we just need to communicate better,” only to find that things aren’t good at […]
Moving from Defensiveness to Accountability
“Responding to someone’s upset by defending, explaining, or minimizing is a bad move every time. Change your moves.” ~LMB Defending your actions seems to have become the new “in” thing to do in relationships these days. The problem, however, is that defensiveness absolutely kills relationships. One of the most common struggles individuals have is defensiveness. If […]