“There are few things more courageous than being accountable. Stop defending and start being brave.” ~LMB Recently I wrote a tip about defensiveness and soon after, I received an email asking if I would write about, “some effective ways to accomplish the healing and change our behavior”. What I love about this request is that […]
Moving from Defensiveness to Accountability
“Responding to someone’s upset by defending, explaining, or minimizing is a bad move every time. Change your moves.” ~LMB Defending your actions seems to have become the new “in” thing to do in relationships these days. The problem, however, is that defensiveness absolutely kills relationships. One of the most common struggles individuals have is defensiveness. If […]
Building Your Accountability Muscles
People have this fantasy that “if only” their partner was kind, or respectful or caring or … (fill in the blank), their relationship would be great; this is not how relationships work. The idea that your relationship would be fine or easy “if only” your partner…, is a convenient way of taking the responsibility of […]