“Justifying, minimizing, or defending your actions, turns small mistakes into big problems. Repair the other person’s pain rather than protecting your ego.” ~LMB If a friend, family member, lover, or colleague comes to you in a place of upset about something you did, it’s your job to do what you can to help them. It’s not […]
Moving from Defensiveness to Accountability
“Responding to someone’s upset by defending, explaining, or minimizing is a bad move every time. Change your moves.” ~LMB Defending your actions seems to have become the new “in” thing to do in relationships these days. The problem, however, is that defensiveness absolutely kills relationships. One of the most common struggles individuals have is defensiveness. If […]
Empowerment Starts with Speaking Your Truth
What if you shared your honest opinions—time and time again? What if you told your partner what you really think—each time s/he asks? What if you stepped in when the black girl, homosexual boy or Muslim woman is being harassed and dared to say that the bullying is about the harasser’s own insecurity, not the […]