I’m struck by how much people don’t say. They hint, insinuate, tiptoe, sugar coat, say half-truths, silence, manipulate, annihilate, etc., yet few actually directly state (respectfully) what’s going on for them. When I talk with clients about saying things directly, they almost immediately start to get anxious. Many people don’t want to “be mean,” get […]
Not Happy In Your Relationship? Talk About It
After working with hundreds of couples over the years, I continue to be surprised at how many people are oblivious to their partner’s unhappiness…until, that is, they are about to leave. Too many couples come into my office following an affair, a blow up or a declaration by one partner that they are leaving the […]
There Are Few Things Less Relational Than A Poor Listener: Working Your Listening Skills In Your Relationships
Good listening skills are vital to any relationship in your life. If you don’t listen well at work—it may cost you your job. If you don’t listen to your partner—it will greatly impact your relationship. And if you don’t listen to your friends—you may find that you have fewer and fewer. The bottom line is: […]