“Dismissing or minimizing someone’s feelings, ideas, or experiences, because you don’t feel the same, is arrogant and harmful to relationships. Acknowledge and support; don’t dismiss.” ~Lisa Merlo-Booth When it comes to relationships, the litmus test regarding what is essential or relevant to listen to is humanity, not agreement. Too many people run the thoughts and […]
Stop Excusing and Start Listening
“If you have to re-word, justify, or “clean-up” someone’s words, chances are those words were not OK. Listen to the actual words spoken, not what you think, wish, or convince yourself was meant.” ~LMB A common habit I see with couples and quite frankly, our world right now is people excusing, changing, or explaining the […]
Dismissiveness: Remove These 5 Statements from Your Communication
When it comes to upsets and conflict, one of the worst things you can do is respond in a way that is dismissive or minimizing. The last thing in the world people want to hear is you telling them their upset isn’t really a problem. That response is not calming. It won’t reassure them. And […]