“If you have to re-word, justify, or “clean-up” someone’s words, chances are those words were not OK. Listen to the actual words spoken, not what you think, wish, or convince yourself was meant.” ~LMB A common habit I see with couples and quite frankly, our world right now is people excusing, changing, or explaining the […]
Dismissiveness: Remove These 5 Statements from Your Communication
When it comes to upsets and conflict, one of the worst things you can do is respond in a way that is dismissive or minimizing. The last thing in the world people want to hear is you telling them their upset isn’t really a problem. That response is not calming. It won’t reassure them. And […]
To Make an Educated Decision, Hear all Sides with an Open Mind
“Minds are like parachutes–they only function when open.” ~Thomas Dewar Closing your mind to views that differ from yours leaves you unable to make an informed decision. There is a strong pull for people to encapsulate themselves with information that confirms their strongly held beliefs. They may read only from sources that “confirm” their thinking, […]