Shatter the Old Relationship Rules. Create Radically New Relationships.
Most people spend years stuck in the same destructive patterns—blaming their partner, shutting down, lashing out, or walking on eggshells to avoid another blow-up. They keep hoping things will magically change. They wait for their partner to get it, soften, or finally step up.
That wait is killing your relationship.
Here’s the truth: if you want something different, you must show up differently.
And no, this isn’t your typical “talk-it-out” therapy.
With over 20 years of experience as a relationship coach, I’ve helped hundreds of individuals and couples break harmful cycles, improve communication, and create relationships that feel safe, strong, and deeply connected.
Who I Work With
Relationship Coaching for Couples
Harmful Relationship Patterns Can End with You.
Couples don’t crash overnight.
They erode—fight by fight, silence by silence, until the connection is gone and all that’s left is resentment, defensiveness, and distance.
You know the script:
- Same argument. Different day.
- Walking on eggshells, hoping this time won’t set them off.
- Withdrawing. Shutting down. Lashing out.
- More like roommates than partners—if that.
Sound familiar? Then it’s time to stop replaying the same dysfunction on loop.
This isn’t about “improving communication.” It’s about ending the harmful patterns that are slowly destroying your relationship.
I don’t do passive couples therapy. I don’t sit back while you talk in circles. And I don’t pretend both partners are equally responsible if they’re not.
Here’s what I do instead:
- I name the dynamics that are breaking your relationship—clearly and unapologetically
- I call out defensiveness, stonewalling, blame, and control—in the moment
- I teach you how to respond instead of react, so your fights don’t spiral
- I show you how to set and hold boundaries without losing the connection
- I coach you on the actual skills of intimacy, not just the theory of it
If one of you is out of line, I’ll say so. If both of you need to change, I’ll show you how. I’m not here to make you feel good in the moment—I’m here to help you create a relationship you actually want to stay in.
You can’t build something new if you keep doing what’s always been done.\
Let’s break the cycle and build something radically different—together.
Relationship Coaching for Women
Stop Dimming Your Light. Start Taking Up Space.
I’ve seen too many women play small in their own lives—tolerating disrespect, excusing emotional neglect, and biting their tongues to keep the peace. They’re exhausted from over-functioning and still feeling like it’s never enough. They’ve traded their power for approval and lost themselves in the process.
Let’s be clear: martyrdom is not a virtue. People-pleasing won’t fix your relationship. And silencing yourself doesn’t make you “easier to love”—it just makes you disappear.
You weren’t put on this earth to walk on eggshells or manage everyone else’s emotions.
If you’ve been bending, shrinking, second-guessing, or exploding just to be heard, it’s time to learn a new way of being.
I’ll help you:
- Reclaim your voice and stop tolerating the intolerable
- Set boundaries that actually hold—no more empty threats or guilt trips
- Stop reacting in extremes (silent treatment one day, rage the next)
- Show up grounded, strong, and unapologetically clear
- Step into your Grounded Powerful Strength (GPS)—a way of leading your life and relationships without being passive, aggressive, or over-accommodating
Real change doesn’t come from waiting on your partner to wake up. It comes from you deciding you’re done settling.
Let’s make that decision together.
NOTE: Individual sessions are 90-minute sessions via Zoom every other week
Relationship Coaching for Men
Drop the Armor. Pick Up Real Strength.
Most men are handed the same broken rulebook:
Suck it up.
Man up.
Toughen Up.
So they shut down, lash out, or disappear—believing that power means dominance, silence equals strength, and vulnerability is a liability.
That rulebook? It’s ruining your relationships.
Here’s what no one told you:
- Emotional shutdown isn’t strength—it’s sabotage.
- Anger won’t earn you respect—it destroys it.
- Controlling your partner won’t create connection—it kills it.
The truth? You can’t have healthy relationships if you’re hiding behind withdrawal, sarcasm, or rage.
I work with men who are ready to rewrite the rules—men who are tired of being misunderstood, disconnected, or one misstep away from losing their marriage, kids, or self-respect.
If that’s you, I’ll help you:
- Step into a version of masculinity that’s relational, not reactive
- Stop defaulting to anger, silence, or control to get your needs met
- Build confidence and clarity that isn’t based on intimidation or shutdown
- Learn how to respond instead of explode—or disappear
- Step into Grounded Powerful Strength (GPS)—where strength and connection go hand-in-hand
This work isn’t about being more emotional—it’s about being strong enough to handle truth, take ownership, and do better.
Don’t wait until your partner is packing bags or your kids stop talking to you.
Real change starts when you stop hiding behind outdated definitions of what it means to be a man—and start showing up.
NOTE: Individual sessions are 90 minute sessions via Zoom every other week
How Relationship Coaching Works
This Isn’t Therapy. It’s Real-Time Transformation.
Let’s get one thing straight:
Coaching with me isn’t about rehashing your childhood or analyzing your past for the hundredth time. It’s about learning the tools to stop the dysfunction now—and showing up in ways that actually shift your relationship forward.
I don’t do “neutral.”
I don’t nod along while you argue.
And I don’t pretend both partners are always equally at fault. Because they’re not.
Most therapists and coaches? They’re lost when it comes to couples work—especially with high-conflict or emotionally unsafe dynamics. I train those professionals. I teach them how to work with couples when the stakes are high and the patterns are deeply entrenched.
Here’s what makes my approach different:
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Pulling from Terrence Real’s Relational Life Therapy, Pia Mellody’s Post-Induction Model, and my decades of experience working with couples, I created my own Radically New Relationship Paradigm (TM) for helping couples move from breakdown to breakthrough.
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I coach you in real time—stopping destructive dynamics as they’re happening and walking you through how to respond differently, right then and there.
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I take sides when it’s warranted. Because not all problems are 50/50—and pretending they are? That does more harm than good.
If one partner’s behavior is driving the dysfunction, I name it. If you’re both off, I’ll say so. My priority is the health of the relationship—not coddling egos.
My work is intense, honest, and highly effective. If you’re serious about change and willing to do the work, I’ll show you how.
How I Work
I Don’t Do Traditional—and That’s a Good Thing.
When it comes to couples work, most therapists are taught the same outdated rule: never take sides.
Keep it balanced. Stay neutral. Pretend both partners are equally responsible—even when one person’s behavior is clearly more harmful.
I was trained that way too—until I saw the damage it caused.
Let me be clear: I take a hard line on harmful behavior. Because someone has to.
As a result, I take a hard line on harmful behavior—because someone has to.
If you’re yelling, shutting down, gaslighting, controlling, or steamrolling your partner, I’ll name it.
If you’re avoiding, appeasing, or shrinking to keep the peace, I’ll call that out too.
When kids are involved, I work hard to help the couple stay together—but only if the relationship can become emotionally safe, respectful, and mutually fulfilling. If not, I won’t push you to stay in something toxic. I’ll be honest about what’s possible and what’s not.
I’m not here to coddle. I’m here to help you change the way you relate—and that requires learning skills most people were never taught. I coach couples in the moment, interrupting unhealthy dynamics as they happen, and teaching new ways of showing up that actually work.
You won’t leave wondering what just happened in our session. You’ll leave with clarity, tools, and a clear path forward.
Is This Coaching Right for You?
Let’s Be Real—This Work Isn’t for Everyone
This isn’t coaching for people who want to keep playing by the old rules.
If you’re still clinging to power plays, emotional shutdowns, or the belief that relationships are about control, keeping score, or never being wrong—this won’t work for you.
However, if you’re willing to question everything you’ve been taught about how relationships should work…
However, if you’re open to replacing hierarchy, contempt, and silence with safety, partnership, and authentic connection…
If you’re ready to show up with courage, humility, and a willingness to grow—
Then you’re exactly where you need to be.
🚫 If you want your partner to be the only one changing while you continue showing up the same way—this isn’t for you.
🚫 If you’re hoping I’ll tell you how to “fix” your partner—this isn’t for you.
✅ If you’re ready to challenge the old paradigm and step into a radically new way of relating—let’s do this.
My Coaching Is:
Direct, Compassionate, and Truth-Telling
Focused on Action, Not Talk
Fast, Effective, and Rooted in Results
Ways to Work With Me
- Private Coaching Sessions – For individuals or couples ready to dive deep into the work. All sessions are via Zoom allowing me to work with clients from all over including Ireland, England, Japan, etc. If our schedules work together than you can call in from anywhere.
- Virtual – I work with all clients virtually via Zoom.
NOTE: Sessions with Individuals are 90 minute sessions every other week via Zoom. My initial session with couples is a 3-hour session via Zoom. After the initial session we move to 2-hour session every other week via Zoom.
Ready to Step Into a Radically New Relationship?
I only work with a limited number of clients at a time. If you’re serious about changing the way you show up—and you’re ready to build a relationship that’s safe, strong, and worth coming home to—let’s talk.