20,000 Videos. Not One Man Said Stop
“Men and women alike are being harmed by a system that keeps them on opposite
sides. Men and women uniting together is the only way humanity wins.” Lisa Merlo-booth
Nearly every woman in the world walks through the world aware of the dangers of men. Most incorporate countless acts of self-protection that few men ever even think about: cover your drinks, don’t walk at night alone, look in the back seat of your car before you get in, make sure you have your phone if you go jogging, don’t park too far away from people…honestly, the number of things women do is exhausting, and sadly necessary. And even though women know that most rapes and sexual assaults happen from someone they know, almost no woman lies awake at night fearing the man beside her.
After Zoe Watts discovered her husband of 16 years had been drugging her with her son’s sleeping pills so he could rape her while she slept, she was shocked and devastated: “We worry about who’s coming behind us, walking down the street, or who’s even friending us on Facebook. You know, we worry about going to our car late at night in a car park, but we don’t worry about who you lie next to. I didn’t realize I had to.”
The fact that Zoe’s story is becoming more and more common is beyond disturbing, disgusting, and utterly tragic—for women, men, families, and, honestly, our world:
From 2011-2020, Dominique Pelicot drugged his wife, Gisele Pelicot, so he could have men come into their home and rape her, again and again and again. He contacted these rapists in the chatroom “Without her Knowledge.” In 2024, Dominique Pelicot pleaded guilty to setting up, watching, and participating in over 200 rapes of his wife by 70 different men over a period of 9 years.
In March 2026, CNN uncovered an online global “rape academy” where men teach other men how to drug and rape their wives. On one porn site alone, there are over 20,000 videos of men filming themselves lifting the eyelids of drugged women before raping them. These sites instruct men how to do it without getting caught–– and broadcast it live.
Like Gisele Pelicot, many of these victims thought they had a great marriage. Many were not in relationships where domestic violence was present. These women had no idea that their husbands were monsters. They had no idea that the man who was supposed to be the safest person in their life was their biggest abuser.
What has happened to our society? How is it that there are over 20,000 videos of men drugging and raping their wives on one site, and not one man on that site stops and says this is sick? How is it that we live in a world where violence against women is happening at an astronomical rate, yet few men are truly standing up to it?
The reality is that standing up to men—regardless of your gender–is difficult at best and dangerous at worst. When the subject at hand is women–– sexual harassment, crude
comments, violence against women–– that push back is almost guaranteed. Any male daring to call out his friend’s crude comments, poor treatment, or sexist behavior will often find himself being called a wuss, faggot, p*ssy, or worse.
And historically, the way boys prove their manhood is by being one of the pack, proving their sexual prowess, and not allowing themselves to be “pssy whipped”: fck them, don’t fall for them.
Any man daring to go against this code puts his masculinity at risk.
Any female daring to call it out puts her life at risk.
Until it doesn’t.
Until enough men and women find enough courage to turn this dangerous ship around.
This ship only gets turned when women and men join together to recognize in themselves and those around them the system that is harming them––and fight it. Every day. Every time. Everywhere.
This ship only gets turned when EVERY “good guy” dares to stand up to EVERY sexist,
misogynistic, sexually harassing comment, act, or message that they read, see, or hear. And reports every sexual assault, rape, drugging, and harmful act they see or hear about–ANY man doing, even their brother, father, or best friend. Until ALL of the “good guys” dare to take a position of “Hell no, not on my watch,” these behaviors will continue to grow like wildfire.
The wildfire is already happening. The question is: are you brave enough to stop it? On the golf course, in the office, at the bar, and in the world. With your friend, your brother, your father, colleagues, or your boss?
