Why Your Explanations Aren’t Repairing Relationship Conflict

Why Your Explanations Aren’t Repairing Relationship Conflict

“Explaining your actions does not negate the impact of those actions. Don’t confuse an explanation with accountability and repair.”  – Lisa Merlo-booth Explaining why you did what you did is not taking responsibility for it. When your actions upset someone, your...
We Teach People How To Treat Us

We Teach People How To Treat Us

“You can’t change your partner. However, you can change what you put up with from your partner.” – Lisa Merlo-booth We teach people how to treat us; we do this with our words, our actions, and even our silence. If we choose to stay in a conversation while...
When Helping Isn’t Helping

When Helping Isn’t Helping

“Confusing enabling with helping hurts everyone — every time.” Lisa Merlo-Booth People feel good when they have a sense of mastery over their life. Taking care of life’s everyday challenges helps you feel a sense of accomplishment, pride, and...
Dare to be Vulnerable

Dare to be Vulnerable

What Stoicism, People-Pleasing, and Avoidance Have in Common “Being invulnerable creates a dull, disconnected existence. You deserve to experience all the colors of life –– dare to be vulnerable.” Lisa Merlo-Booth Most people want emotional intimacy and...