“Insanity: “doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results.” ~ Albert Einstein Don’t be insane. A basic, foundational principle for every couple trying to recover from the brink of divorce is: If your partner is leaving you because of your actions, don’t keep doing the actions they are upset about. For example, if […]
Healthy Communication is Not a Monologue
When talking about healthy communication, a wise client once told me, after we had been working on communication for a while, “I have realized that I have three ways of responding. I ignore. I go along to get along, saying, ‘Sure, whatever.’ Or I react angrily. I can see I need to find more ways […]
Men and Repair: “I Screwed Up!!! Now What?”
I receive many e-mails and comments on my blog from men asking me what to do after they’ve really messed things up in their relationship. Most of these “screw ups” have been a series of behaviors over time that eventually burned out their marriages or long-term relationships. Some men had affairs, while others were dismissive, […]