“Taking in critical feedback—without defensiveness—is a superpower.” ~Lisa Merlo-Booth A fascinating thing about skillfully managing conflict is that it leaves both parties feeling more connected rather than less. Even when you feel hurt by someone, if they can acknowledge the hurt and be accountable for how their actions contributed to that hurt, you will feel […]
Lose the Defensiveness for a Healthy Relationship
“Defensiveness is a key predictor of divorce; if you want to be happily married, you had better lose the defensiveness.” ~Lisa Merlo-Booth Over the years, I’ve realized how utterly uncommon accountability is, and courageous accountability is even less common. Have you noticed this as well? Do you struggle with being accountable? If so, let me […]
Break the Cycle of Defensiveness and Blame in Your Relationships
“Telling your spouse what you don’t like about them—when they are ready to walk out of the marriage—is a bad move every time.” ~Lisa Merlo-Booth Contrary to popular opinion, not all marital problems are 50-50. Often, one spouse’s behaviors are far more challenging to live with than the other’s, and the key “contribution” to the […]
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