Asking your partner to do something different can be a difficult conversation to have. Many times it is so difficult that individuals fret and ruminate for hours, days or even weeks before saying anything. Unfortunately, all of this fretting often leads to one partner blurting out, in the heat of the moment, what they don’t […]
REPAIRING TRUST AFTER AN AFFAIR
REPAIRING TRUST AFTER AN AFFAIR I often hear individuals who have had affairs speaking to their partners, making comments like: “Am I ever going to live this down?” “It didn’t mean anything.” “It’s over with, would you let it go!” etc. The general theme is they want to quickly move past the affair and go […]
Don’t Let a Great Message Get Lost in the Delivery
One day I was working with a couple and while the husband was talking, his wife interrupted him several times. After about the third time he turned to her and said, “Would you shut up and let me speak!” She immediately became angry. He attempted to continue until I stopped him. “Tom” I said. “You […]