Sep 12, 2007
This past week between the hustle and bustle of moving, unpacking, seeing clients, changing e-mails…I have been taken aback by the number of disgruntled, stagnant couples that have shown up in my life. Have you ever seen or been a part of a disgruntled stagnant...
Aug 31, 2007
Before you can complain about all the things your partner is or is not doing, you have to clean up your act. You’ve heard me say it too many times to count, and yet it still remains true: the only person you can control is yourself. So start controlling yourself and...
Aug 23, 2007
HEALTHY PARENTING IS NOT ONLY ABOUT HOW YOU TREAT YOUR CHILDREN Children learn from their parents, how to be in this world, in three ways: 1. By how their parents treat them 2. By how their parents treat others 3. By how their parents treat themselves Many parents are...
Aug 2, 2007
Recently the issue of control has been coming up in my work with many people. The control I’m talking about can look like micro-managing or being over-responsible. Micro-managing someone is telling them what to do, how to do it, and even when to do it. This can...
Jun 11, 2007
Speaking and listening safely is paramount in relationships. Let’s take speaking first. Are you a “safe” speaker? Seems like an odd question, I’m sure; however, I believe many couples do not communicate in a safe fashion. The Encarta Dictionary defines “safe” as: 1....
Jun 1, 2007
My last post I wrote about the right to say no to sex in your relationship. This post is about the other side of that issue: the importance of also saying yes to sexual intimacy in your relationship. Everyone has the right, and obligation, I believe, to participate in...
