Here it is again, that time of year when we make promises to ourselves about all the things we are going to do this year: lose weight, be more organized, clean up our finances ect. As I was sitting down thinking about my own “resolutions” throughout the years, I realized that seldom did I make any relational resolutions; when I did, they were thrown in with so many other resolutions that they seemed to get lost in the masses.
Healthy relationships take work and require attention, therefore this year make a decision to consciously work your relationships. Have one of your New Years’ goals center on your relationship with your partner and loved ones. This year however, truly pay attention – be conscious and follow through. What could you do differntly in your relationships this year that you believe would make the biggest difference? Once you choose this behavior, monitor it, pay attention to the changes you see, pay attention to how you feel when you do it, how others respond and what the overall impact is; you may be surprised how much of an impact you actually do have even when your partner isn’t changing a thing!
My relationship goal for 2006 is to be truly “present” when I am with my children and my husband rather than zoning out and letting precious time slip by – What’s yours?
Challenge: Choose your relational goal for 2006, write it down and put it someplace where you can see it daily. Monitor your progress and observations at the same time daily (at first and then weekly) and write down your progress or road blocks.