The political climate in the US is particularly hostile this year, making this holiday season incredibly challenging for many families. The divide has strained relationships, resulting in uninvited guests, declined invitations, and even complete silence between loved ones. Family gatherings can feel like battlefields of opposing political ideologies, turning Thanksgiving tables into virtual communication landmines.
For those who are too hurt, angry, or disappointed to be with family this season, honor yourself by skipping the gathering. Sometimes, taking space from family or friends is the most loving decision you can make; do it when you need to. Passing on one gathering doesn’t mean passing on all gatherings in the future.
For those gathering with family, remember that holidays are a time for rest, connection, and joy. They provide an opportunity to escape life’s stresses and focus on those who matter most. If you are spending time with family or friends this holiday season, remember this.
Regardless of whether you choose to discuss politics, religion, abortion, or any other sensitive topic, ensure the conversation comes from a clean, respectful place. Pay attention to what you say and how you say it. And if you know that respectful dialogue isn’t possible, avoid these topics over the holiday–especially if young children are present. Children deserve wonderful holiday experiences free from adult arguments over complex issues they don’t understand.
While it’s crucial to learn how to engage in tough political, personal, or ideological conversations, knowing when to have them is just as important. Holidays are for respite, connection, and replenishing, not battling, arguing, litigating, or fighting. If you’ve chosen to be with family this season, allow yourself and your loved ones to connect, relax, laugh, and enjoy the holiday. Leave the “hot” topics for another day.
I wish everyone in the United States a very happy Thanksgiving holiday, and to those worldwide, I hope you enjoy a wonderfully relaxing week.
Warmly,
Lisa
