“Blaming your reactions, choices, or life circumstances on others is a disempowering move. Take radical responsibility for your life and relationships.” ~Lisa Merlo-Booth
Blaming others for your anger, upset, situation, etc., is going to keep you stuck. The more you convince yourself that others ‘make’ you mad, ruined your life, pushed you into an affair, or (fill in the blank), the greater the chance you will be unhappy in your circumstances and feel helpless to change them. No one in your life is responsible for how your life plays out. You are the only person responsible for your choices and, ultimately, your life.
Other people don’t make your life miserable. They don’t make you lie, cheat, blow up, or break down. No one forces you to act in a certain way or causes you to feel a specific feeling. Bad marriages don’t make you cheat, and good marriages don’t just happen. You decide how to feel, what actions you take or don’t take, and how much effort you’re going to put into every aspect of your life. No one has the power to force you to act, feel, or respond in a certain way—without you giving them that power. Don’t ever give people that power.
Take radical responsibility for your life. You are 100% responsible for the life you create, the life you allow, and the life you sabotage. Create your best life. Stop letting others into your life who are harmful. Don’t placate around those who bully or chase those who don’t choose to connect. Take a stand for yourself. Pay attention to what you accept and later complain about, desire but don’t ask for, or push away and later yearn to have. You have the power to create an extraordinary life; however, that can only happen if you take the reigns. Take the reigns.
Challenge:
- Don’t, for a moment, blame others for your fate, actions, lack of actions, or everyday choices.
- Own them.
- Learn from them.
- Take radical responsibility for your life and start taking simple steps to create your best life.
The power is within you; tap into it.