“Shutting down or withdrawing in conflict is not the same as taking a healthy, much-needed time-out; one protects relationships while the other harms them.” ~LMB Conflict, hurt feelings, upsets, and challenging conversations are vital aspects of healthy relationships, teams, and systems. The problem arises when individuals try to avoid or squash these difficult moments. One […]
Take Time This Coming Year to Create an Environment of Uncompromising Safety
“If your relationships are not physically, emotionally, verbally, and psychologically safe, you cannot have true intimacy and connection.” ~LMB No matter how angry you or your partner becomes, there should be a hardline that no one crosses when angry. That line includes no raging, verbal attacks, name-calling, or contempt toward each other (or loved ones). […]
Healthy Connection Requires Uncompromised Safety
“Healthy connection can’t happen without emotional and physical safety.” ~Lisa Merlo-Booth There is a dangerous notion that harshness, reactivity, intense anger, intimidation, and even rage, are okay responses to upsets and conflict. These responses are not okay—in your home, on the job, or in the world. Verbal or physical attacks are harmful, abusive, and damaging—in […]