Sep 5, 2006
If you cannot let go of an issue without resentment, then speak directly about it. Each unspoken grudge piggy-backs on previous ones, until they build up to a point where few relationships can survive without a lot of work and/or outside help. Couples often let too...
Aug 6, 2006
If you have a problem with someone, go to the source. If you have nothing else to talk about, make it a point to read up on current events or talk about your own life. Gossiping is a way of keeping distance. If we are talking about someone else, we’re not sharing...
Jul 28, 2006
A friend was telling me a story about her daughter. She said her daughter had a friend who lived in her neighborhood and went to her school. When the two were at home, her friend was nice to her and fun to play with. When they were at school, this friend was...
May 17, 2006
Safety is a prerequisite for all healthy relationships. If you are using physical violence against someone in anger, that person is not safe. Intense anger acted out physically will break a connection instantly. Being angry is a human emotion that all of us feel at...
Apr 10, 2006
Women often ask me what they’re supposed to do when their partners do something they don’t like. If they say something, their partner accuses them of nagging; if they don’t say anything then the women get angry and resentful. So, what do you do? The short answer is...
Mar 29, 2006
Speaking your truth is a wonderful gift. Be truthful in a compassionate, honoring way. Don’t hide it, sugar-coat it, or deny it. Just tell it. This cornerstone alone will transform your relationships. I’m amazed at how often people don’t speak their truth in...
