Aug 23, 2007
HEALTHY PARENTING IS NOT ONLY ABOUT HOW YOU TREAT YOUR CHILDREN Children learn from their parents, how to be in this world, in three ways: 1. By how their parents treat them 2. By how their parents treat others 3. By how their parents treat themselves Many parents are...
Aug 2, 2007
Recently the issue of control has been coming up in my work with many people. The control I’m talking about can look like micro-managing or being over-responsible. Micro-managing someone is telling them what to do, how to do it, and even when to do it. This can...
Jul 9, 2007
Here are some helpful tips to keep you on track when your partner is upset about something you did and wants you to listen: • Listen to understand where your partner is coming from. Your job is to put yourself in your partner’s shoes for a moment and get a clear...
Jun 23, 2007
Relationship Principle: The closer people are to me, the higher my expectations for treatment will be. I’ve always found it interesting that so many people accept the worst treatment, not from strangers and acquaintances, but from the people closest to them. I’ve seen...
May 14, 2007
A few posts ago I wrote about withdrawal in relationships and received a comment asking me what to do when you are on the receiving end of withdrawal. In other words, what is a healthy response to a partner’s unhealthy choice to withdraw? Let me be clear that the type...
Apr 10, 2007
People lie to one another all the time in relationships. One partner has an affair and swears up and down that nothing is going on. Another person promises that s/he quit smoking weeks ago, then their partner finds they have been sneaking cigarettes daily. Johnny...
