Mar 11, 2009
Recently, while at a workshop with my long time mentor Terry Real, I was struck by his comment: “It is co-dependant when you back away from functional behaviors because of fear of your partner’s dysfunctional behavior.” I immediately started to chuckle when I heard...
Mar 4, 2009
“As to diseases, Make a habit of two things— To help, or at least do no harm.” Hippocrates, The Epidemics I’m often struck by the way so many of us treat our loved ones compared to how we treat strangers on the street or acquaintances. It seems that often it’s...
Mar 1, 2009
I receive e-mails, blog comments, and inquiries from women and men all the time describing miserable relationships and poor treatment. For example: * “I have 5 kids by my husband and he has two with another woman. I have reason to believe she is pregnant again. ...
Dec 26, 2008
I’m constantly hearing from women that their partners just don’t listen: “I’m telling him about something that happened at work and instead of listening he tries to problem solve with me.” “I tell him I don’t like the way he’s speaking to me and he says I’m too...
Dec 26, 2008
I’m constantly hearing from women that their partners just don’t listen: “I’m telling him about something that happened at work and instead of listening he tries to problem solve with me.” “I tell him I don’t like the way he’s speaking to me and he says I’m too...
Oct 20, 2008
One of the best predictors of divorce is…withdrawal. Being that I, myself, am a recovered withdrawer, imagine my surprise when I first found this out. Yikes! I remember years ago when my husband and I would get mad about something and I would clam up and shut down. ...
