The Power of Negative Talk (To youself and to others)

The past five months I’ve been working hard on a new speech which I will give tonight (wish me luck!).  This process has brought to light, in a whole different way, the power of negative talk…and positive talk. I have become acutely aware of the power of my words on...

Domestic Violence: The Readers Speak Out

I’ve received several comments following my last post on domestic violence and wanted to address some of them.  FIrst and foremost I want to thank all my readers for taking the time to write in on this topic.  I also want to thank several of you for reminding me...

Your Relationship or Your Life? No Relationship is Worth Your Life

This week’s headlines regarding Nancy Cooper’s murder has led me to write this post. Nancy was the mother of two beautiful little girls who are now left to deal with one of the most traumatizing, life altering adversities anyone could ever experience.  Whether her...

Lighten Up…Bringing Fun and Humor into Your Relationship

“The simple truth is that happy people generally don’t get sick.” (Bernie Siegel, M.D.) “…and happy couples generally don’t get divorced” (Lisa Merlo-Booth, M.A.) Life is so stressful, busy, and pressured sometimes that we just forget to laugh.  We get so...

Women, Relationships and the Extremes

Women often fight immoderately–either overshooting or undershooting.  When they overshoot, they yell, control, go on and on incessantly, or make repeated empty threats, all of which are ineffective.  When women undershoot, they accommodate, say yes when they...

Critical Relationships (Part II)

A NOTE TO WOMEN In my previous post I wrote about men feeling as though they can never do anything good enough for their partners.  My suggestion was for them to make sure that when they say they’re going to do something that they not only actually do it, but they...