Apr 23, 2008
Over the years I’ve heard many excuses for partners treating each other in emotionally abusive ways. When I say emotionally abusive, what I mean is: calling your partner names, swearing at him/her, yelling or screaming at your partner, belittling him/her, harshly...
Apr 16, 2008
• Stacey’s son throws a temper tantrum every time he doesn’t get his way. Stacey responds by trying her best to placate her son and settle him down. She teaches her son that his tantrums work. • Steve’s wife often gets so angry and reactive when she doesn’t like...
Jan 18, 2008
On any given day any one of us can react in a split second to annoying events, our partner’s foibles, life circumstances, etc. In fact, many of us have a black belt in reactivity which leads into all sorts of trouble, regrets, and negative consequences. Reacting is a...
Dec 14, 2007
Women speak about miserable relationships and hopeless feelings all the time. They report that their partners have no interest in counseling, are under a lot of stress, and can’t handle more right now. Women can’t push or demand too much from the men because it may...
Oct 10, 2007
I was just reading a blog about anger management. The blog is: http://www.daybreakservices.com/blog/ For those of you who struggle with anger, you may want to check this blog out. It has a lot of helpful tips to help control your anger and the writing is short and...
Jun 15, 2007
Being a safe listener is necessary for true intimacy to occur. One way to think of intimacy is “Into–me-you-see”; it is the sharing of two individuals about themselves. If one or both partners use what is shared, against the other person, it’s not safe to share. If...
