Oct 2, 2023
“Shutting down or withdrawing in conflict is not the same as taking a healthy, much-needed time-out; one protects relationships while the other harms them.” ~LMB Conflict, hurt feelings, upsets, and challenging conversations are vital aspects of healthy...
Jun 5, 2023
“Be careful what behaviors you normalize because what you normalize becomes the norm.” ~Lisa Merlo-Booth An essential requirement in any healthy relationship, company, or culture is uncompromising safety which means that every human being is responsible for...
Jan 17, 2012
Resentments creep up in relationships all the time. You’re resentful that your partner works all the time. You’re resentful that your boss gave your co-worker a raise, but not you. You feel resentment at your parents for the way they raised you and now expect you...
Jan 5, 2012
Over the years, I’ve worked with countless women who have centered their entire lives around taking care of others. If their husbands wanted to take a job that involved excessive traveling, crazy work hours and almost no time with family—no problem. The women would,...
Nov 29, 2011
I often watch couples in my office struggle with the ripple effect caused by using a “wall of words.” A wall of words is when a person speaks on and on about an issue, complaint, story, idea or piece of information to such a degree that they lose the attention of the...
Nov 14, 2011
It’s not at all uncommon for women (and people in general) to want to exact revenge on someone in their life who has “wronged” them. If their husband had an affair, women often want to make him pay. If they’re too scared of losing him as a result of their revenge or...
