Have you ever had that nagging feeling that something just wasn’t right? Perhaps you feel anxious about your partner’s drinking or worried your partner’s pulling away or… (fill in the blank). All you know is that you’re not happy with this “thing”, yet every time you bring it to your partner’s attention, they deny it.
After a while, you decide to just let it go.
The only problem is…it comes back.
That anxiety about your partner’s drinking turns into a nightmare of their drunkenness. Your partner’s denial of pulling away turns into their hidden affair. You’re sense of needing more from this relationship turns into you getting your emotional needs met outside the relationship. Whatever the issue was that you talked yourself into dropping, inevitably comes back to haunt you. You didn’t trust your instincts and now you end up paying the price.
We all have a very wise inner voice that sees what’s really going on. This voice knows what you don’t want to hear. It also knows what you need to hear. The trick is to quiet your fears, anxieties and panic, enough to listen. Ignoring the voice does not erase the issue. It buries them–only to have them rise at a later date, bigger and stronger than ever before.
Whether you’re ignoring your partner’s drinking, lies, aloofness, violence, disrespect, overspending or (fill in the blank), know that it is highly likely to come back. You’re inner voice is an eye opener when you choose to listen to it. It’s a gift when you also choose to act on it.
CHALLENGE: Tune in to what your inner voice is telling you about your relationships. Don’t dismiss it, explain it away or ignore it. Instead, have the courage to face it head on and take any actions that you know in your gut are the right actions to take; even if this means creating tension in your relationship.